Think of a recent important close relationship. Results can differ by relationship, and you may stop whenever the questions feel uncomfortable.

For self-understanding, not clinical diagnosis. It does not assess relationship safety or abuse, and a higher score is not anyone’s fault.

Adult Attachment Tendencies

Explore anxiety and avoidance as two continuous dimensions

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When plans with someone close change unexpectedly, I replay the exchange to work out what it meant.

Read attachment through anxiety and avoidance, not four boxes

This assessment separately explores worry around distance or rejection and distance around dependence or vulnerability. Both tendencies can vary by relationship and over time.

How to read the two dimensions

Attachment anxiety

How readily worry and reassurance-seeking activate around distance, ambiguity, or possible rejection.

Attachment avoidance

How readily distance and self-reliance activate around dependence or sharing vulnerability.

Relationship context

The same person can respond differently with partners, family, friends, and after recent experiences.

Frequently asked questions

Does this establish my attachment type?

No. There is no natural, correct categorical boundary; these are two continuous tendencies in your current responses.

Does a higher score mean something is wrong?

No. It is not a good/bad or normal/abnormal judgment, only a signal to consider in context.

Should I start a conversation if the relationship is unsafe?

If there is violence, control, or threat, do not reduce it to attachment or pressure yourself into dialogue. Prioritize safety and qualified support.

An OIYO-authored reflection tool—not a clinical diagnosis, ECR/ECR-R/ECR-RS instrument, or assessment of relationship safety or abuse.

APA — Testing, Assessment, and Measurement — A general reference for assessment quality and professional-use boundaries; it does not validate these OIYO-authored items.

An attachment style test for gentler relationship insight

Attachment style is not a score for whether you love well. It is language for understanding how closeness, distance, and safety feel in important relationships.

How to hold the result

Use the result to notice your own requests and withdrawals before blaming a partner.
See security as a learnable direction, not a fixed attachment category.
If anxiety or avoidance is harming daily life, consider speaking with a trusted professional.

This test supports relationship reflection. For trauma, depression, anxiety, or safety concerns, please seek professional help.

Sources

Models This Test References

Referenced scales and theories

draft OIYO-authored 12-item reflection prompts
adult attachment anxiety/avoidance concepts (educational reference only)
not a validated or licensed ECR-family instrument

Before you read

Results are reflection signals, not fixed labels. Use them alongside context, experience, and feedback from people who know you.

Source note updated: 2026-06-13 View methodology